[16384] in APO-L
Re: Problems with other bros.
daemon@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (Alpha Phi Omega)
Fri Mar 7 14:09:54 1997
Date: Fri, 7 Mar 1997 11:08:41 -0800
Reply-To: Alpha Phi Omega <apo@U.WASHINGTON.EDU>
From: Alpha Phi Omega <apo@U.WASHINGTON.EDU>
To: Multiple recipients of list APO-L <APO-L@VM.CC.PURDUE.EDU>
In-Reply-To: <199703071830.KAA01458@mx4.u.washington.edu>
An important thing to think about is what exactly were they laughing
about? I doubt that your brothers would have been doing such an activitiy
if they knew that you were choking. I don't know the entire situation,
but I know that on some occasions at apo functions, we will have some
juice or something, be talking, start laughing, and I've choked on some
juice and caughed and had a hard time catching my breath. They went on
laughing because they thought I had choked laughing which clears up
because it's liquid in the lungs. Other than that, I would also recommend
that you confront those individuals in a nonconfrontational manor and talk
to them about you concerns. I have learned that there comes a point when
you have tried everything you can to get along with someone, but it still
does not work out. That's when you put it to a professional level, working
with them only and not going so far out of your way to be a friend,
instead letting them come around to you when they want to if ever. Then,
you apreciate those people in your chapter who do like you and you do get
along with. Build on those friendships and hope that it spreads. I think
we all know that in our world, it is impossible to live a socialistic
idealism, thinking taht all people will love all people. There is just
some people out there that don't want to get along. Good luck and I hope
your situation is resolved.
Ryan P. Meeks
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On Fri, 7 Mar 1997, The Cyclone wrote:
> OK, I know I just posted something in response to someone wanting to leave
> the chapter, but something happened last night that really scared me, and
> it makes me almost want to leave my chapter. I worked at the Food Bank
> last night with 3 brothers in the chapter. After finishing the work,
> the people there let you have snacks and juice. Well, the juice I
> drank I ended up choking on and I didn't just cough a few times, I almost
> died! Only one of the other brothers there even did anything to help me.
> The other two didn't do anything and I think they even made fun of me
> after I started hyper-ventilating. I could've died and it seems that
> noone would've tried to save me. Now, maybe they didn't know what to
> do. I wasn't able to talk and tell them what was wrong until after
> most of the coughing and hyper-ventilation was gone and I was starting
> to recover. However, I've had a lot of problems with those brothers (or
> at least the two of them) ignoring me a lot of the time.
>
> And these are not the only brothers I have problems with. It seems there
> are several brothers that don't seem to want to hang around me and don't
> seem to ever listen to what I have to say. And I can't just avoid them
> all. Some of them are officers and show up to almost every activity.
> However, I can't leave my chapter because I'm an officer and though some
> brothers don't seem to want to be my friends, others are good friends and
> I would really be letting them down if I went inactive. I'm going to try
> to talk to some of the brothers and see what I can do. Maybe they don't
> even realize they are doing this to me. I am a bit shy and perhaps people
> think I'm boring to hang around since they never take the chance to really
> get to know me. Perhaps this happens to other inactive brothers also.
> And maybe that's part of the reason we can't keep people active very
> easily. So I guess this is sort of a warning to some chapters as well as
> a plea for help. I'm not too sure how to handle this and I want to do the
> right thing, so if anyone has suggestions, please lmk.
> (if anyone in my chapter reads this, I think we have some talking to
> do...)
>
> Thanks,
> -Martin
>
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