[17783] in APO-L
Re: Transfers
daemon@ATHENA.MIT.EDU (Bret Webster)
Tue Nov 25 11:00:29 1997
Date: Tue, 25 Nov 1997 15:58:25 GMT
Reply-To: Bret Webster <webster@BOISDARC.TAMU-COMMERCE.EDU>
From: Bret Webster <webster@BOISDARC.TAMU-COMMERCE.EDU>
To: Multiple recipients of list APO-L <APO-L@VM.CC.PURDUE.EDU>
Some more kudos for the University of Colorado
Beta Delta had a brother transfer there at the beginning of this semester.
She also found the chapter very easy to transfer into. Their open arms
policy was openly illustrated when they elected her as co-pledge trainer for
next semester. WAY TO GO ERIN!!!!!!! and thanks to the chapter for taking
care of my lil.
In LFS
Bret Webster
Beta Delta.
At 11:04 PM 11/24/97 -0700, dancing nancy wrote:
> Just a few words from a transfer brother -
>I transfered to the Gamma Theta chapter at the University of Colorado in
>the fall of 1996, and I have made the greatest friends I have ever had.
>Gamma Theta welcomed me with open arms and I truly believe they exemplify
>Leadership, Friendship, and Service. One question for all you chapters
>that have stringent transfer policies -- why? You do not gain anything
>by refusing a brother. It is hard enough to transfer to a new school (I
>went from a school of 4,000 to one of 24,000 and, without APO, I would
>have been totally lost) but to be refused by another chapter of APO would
>have been unbearable.
> I realize now how lucky I am to attend a school with an APO
>chapter that really exemplifies Friendship. So, to answer Bryan's
>question, my transfer experience has been wonderful.
>In LF&S
>Molly Carmody
>
>On Mon, 24 Nov 1997, Bryan Royer- Alpha Gamma Xi wrote:
>
>> I was wondering, how many chapters out here have some type of transfer
>> policy? If you do, what is it and what is your rationale behind the
>> requirements?
>>
>> I have seen that transfering is a pain in neck in many different cases.
>> Obviously, being torn from one's friends must not be a pleasant experience.
>> I think that this is multiplied when the transfer thinks of their memories
>> of APO and assumes that they will be welcomed with open arms into a new
>> chapter. Every single one of the brothers who have transferred that I have
>> heard of have had a bad experience. Two of the transfers that I know of went
>> into the same small chapter in the same year. One is no longer associated
>> with APO anymore will the other has had to break through some of the problems
>> of the chapter in order to remain active. This was as a result of fighting
>> through tears.
>> Both of the two that have transferred to my school since I have been
>> here have not been welcomed as they thought they would. One brother who left
>> my school is not feeling as though her chapter is happy that she came to
>> them. Overall, they are lacking what they need: Friendship. I don't mean
>> the generic APO definition but genuine friendship. I do not think this
>> should happen in APO. I try to do my part but I can't give a feeling of
>> overall acceptance to those who need it the most.
>>
>> I think it is a sad state of affairs because only those that are
>> dedicated will seek out the chapter at a new school. From what I have seen,
>> these brothers are either ignored or forced to do outrageous things. I do
>> not think they should have to repledge nor should they be told to wait
>> forever while the chapter figures out what to do with them. I am looking at
>> a Transfer Education Program that consists of intervues/signatures and a
>> brief chapter history. I think that a transfer will have a wider view of the
>> fraternity because they will have seen two different versions of being at the
>> chapter level. They need a way for them to be encorporated into the chapter
>> with the least amount of pain possible.
>>
>> I have one last question. Is there anyone out there who has had a pleasant
>> transfer experience?
>>
>> Acceptance is something that we all need to work on in all areas. If there
>> is someone that has recently transferred into your chapter, do yourself a
>> favor. Go out of YOUR way to get to know that person.
>>
>> In Leadership, FRIENDSHIP and Service,
>> Bryan Royer
>> Membership VP
>> UDayton
>>
>
>
